Tuesday, July 5, 2016

Love/Hate Summer/grown ups

So I came across one moms perspective on how she hate's summer with her autistic son, called:

~10 reasons why autism and summer clash

I can totally relate on all accounts but two. 1), I am a little sister who has an older bother with Asperger/High Functioning Autism. Yes, they pretty much mean the same thing.  You see Asperger is High Functioning Autism.  

No, there is no cure. No, the shots didn't cause him to be on the Autism Spectrum. And No, the Shots didn't cause this! No. it didn't, so don't ague with me on this!

10 Reasons why Autism/Asperger and Adult hood clash:

  1. Yes, he takes showers, just about every day. Sometimes twice a day. Sometimes he'll go without taking a shower for 2 days. Yes, we do remind him to take a shower, brush his teeth, brush his hair, and etc. He just wont think of such trivial things. 
  2. Yes, he is smart. I mean Very smart. He was talking to a neurologist about the brain. What each part does, why it does what it does. How it works, why it works and yeah, everything. The neurologist, dropped his jaw and said "He has as much knowledge about this as I do. He could have my job!" While he was in 3rd grade his teacher could have let my brother take over teaching the class. Yeah, he is THAT stinking smart!  
  3. He is alone, almost all of the time. In so many ways he connects with the Young men. Ages 12-18. His social level is at 7(?), sometimes it is as 12-18. He has melt downs just like other people with Autism and Asperger. In some ways, he is like a child, a 7 year old child. So other people have a hard time connecting to him. Heck, so do we, his own family! He loves his sweets. He'll stay on his computer for hours learning about different things. Right now it is cake decorating. Way cool that he is learning, but hate it that he is alone. 
  4.   Tries to "go with the flow", but really likes his routine, structure, things must be the same. While during Thanksgiving, I'll be just as Thankful with a BLT, he on the other hand, needs to have the full Turkey dinner. And the Turkey left overs just keep coming back, like some bad nightmare! You see, 11 years ago the family lost everything. Jobs, house, friends, everything. He tried to keep his cool, but no, things propped up and we are still dealing with the after math.  That is because he hates change, I mean really hates change. He had tried to deal with it but had a very hard time in doing so.
  5.  He needs to know everything you are doing. Like everything! Your day, if you are cutting back roses, or mowing the lawn, making brownies, cake, or simply what the heck you are making for dinner. What is it?!? Yes, he needs to know, and he'll hover for ever. And yes, it drives me nuts. 
  6. He only plans for the here and now, not the future, not even 3 hours from now. It is the "here and now." That is ok, for the most part. but he needs to be reminded to do things and that things are coming up in the future. See number 4.
  7. You see while he'll eat just about everything, now he decides that he can ONLY eat some foods and not others. Why? See number 4.
  8. His mind keeps him wanting to learn more. See number 2. That is way cool, that he wants to keep learning more, but it exhausts him, to the point that he needs to have a nap during the day, sometime more times during the day. That is because both his right side and his left side of  his brain doesn't communicate to each other very well, so he becomes mentally exhausted, so he takes naps.   
  9. He is very trusting. That can be a good thing. The problem is that he really trust everyone else and not his family. He will to a point.We can say things that are true and he will believe us about whatever truth we are saying. Other times his mind is SO made up that no matter what we'll tell him, it won't do any good what-so-ever. 
  10. He has learned to be every creative in just about everything he will do. It is fascinating to see what he can come up with, but still he need to follow the written directions. Because remember number 4?
  11. He'll say things and does things that will hurt people emotionally, he doesn't mean it, and it is usually not his intention....because you know see number 3. I love to see him socialize, but cringe every time he does. I don't know if that person will become offended or not, or just be shocked. Usually I just think.....Pass the popcorn! We're having a party! And just set back and watch the reactions of people. Pass the popcorn, it can be fun!?!    
 What I have learned with working and living with special needs
  • They can show pure love. They don't care what you look like, or what you are wearing. They are just happy to know that you are their, and safe. 
  •  They can teach you patience and how to love in the purest of forms.
  •  He finds beauty in ugly things, like snakes, lizards, Alligators, weird painting's and sculptures.  You name it he'll find it. I have learned to do the same because of him and others who I have worked with. 
  • He'll mix his food as he sees fit, because remember number 4? Yeah. I know, but that is just how it is. This is Special Needs, welcome to it.  
  • Living with Special Needs and work with Special Needs are two different things. Very Different Things
  • No, two people who are on the Autism Spectrum are the same. No, they are not, don't even try to argue, no, just no. They are different. You can't put people with Autism or Asperger's in one box, you can't even put them in 100 different box's. You might in a 1,000 different box's, but that is being generous. 
  • I have also learned that while working with special needs, the ones who are on the Autistic Spectrum, it is Normal, yes normal for them to have some type of Psychosis. And you thought that I was kidding about the box's? HAHAHAHAH! Not even! The best to prevent/help this is Psychotherapy or Counseling very early on,  depending on the person, and what is gong on. Sometimes they need both. Don't believe me? The Big Bang Theory, Sheldon Cooper, that should explain it all. Or how about Sherlock Holmes? Know the signs, of Psychosis. Look it up, check out books, whatever you need to do to educate yourself.


Friday, August 28, 2015

Poetic Ironic Justice.

Miss Gillespie is a teacher in a grade school in Utah. She has been their for years. In fact she was all of my brothers teacher. When I came along she didn't have me in her class.  Another teacher came along with a higher seniority, only because she had a higher degree. She was upset, she even went to the principle crying, argued, and begged to have mien her class. She even said:

"I have all the Robbs! I want/need the whole set!" 

Come to find out poetic ironic justice have been in the works all these years. Miss Gillespie, now known by a different name, is my nephews teacher this year!  So now she is starting on the "second set" of Robbs. 

I just laughed when my nephew told me who he had as a teacher. She even told him that she new his grandma very well. Yes she does, and it was all my brothers fault. This time it really is, she was never my teacher. 


Saturday, August 22, 2015

Adventures of a Temple Worker

Not to worry I'm not going to put anything that shouldn't be on line, but I can't resist blogging about some of my experiences. One thing I will say is that, in the Temples, miracles happen. Some are so amazing, so tender, you want to "Keep it in your heart" like Mary the Mother of Jesus did.

I have been a LDS Temple Ordinance Worker at the Jordan River Temple since February of this year, 2015.  Things have been interesting. The questions that people asked me are interesting. The Temple Presidency have asked the workers to direct the Patrons to one of them IF they have a question that pertain to the Gospel of Jesus Christ or to the Temple it's self. I don't get such lucky questions. I get others. For example:

  • Is your hair natural, (curly)?
I always answer that question with a yes. followed by: "Do you want to trade?" People always laugh when I'll ask that question. What I really want to say when ask the natural curly hair question. "I took the wool from the sheep and stuck it on my head, only because I don't have anything else to do." Or "I wanted to know what it would be like if I stuck my finger in the light socket"

  • Are you a Return Missionary? You sound like one.

Sadly no. But thank you for the compliment! That is awesome! I have always wanted to go on a LDS mission, but every time I would pray and ask if it would be right for me to serve a mission the answer would always be no. However I have been through a lot of hard times. I identify with Alma 32:12

I say unto you, it is well that ye are cast out of your synagogues, that ye may be humble, and that ye may learn wisdom; for it is necessary that ye should learn wisdom; for it is because that ye are cast out, that ye are despised of your brethren because of your exceeding poverty, that ye are brought to a lowliness of heart; for ye are necessarily brought to be humble

I have to really ask myself: "Where is my testimony? Is it in the people, or is it in the Atonement of Christ?" I decided that it was in the Atonement. So I still read the scriptures, I get frustration along with comfort from them. Frustration, but that is just Isiah, he makes everyone frustrated.  

  • Where are you from? You sound like you have an accent, a British one.
 Here in Utah, born and raised. I've always thought that I had a Utahan accent. I did say that I did have family from the UK,  they come over here like a hundred years ago doing the Handcart thing with the other brave saints from the UK. So now not only do I seem like a RM. but I also talk funny! Too much BBC?

A patron had the last name as my first name, it was just spelled different, but not much. She told me that I need to marry someone with her last name. Now if you have ever seen Ghost Beakers. Bob Hope's character had the name of Lawrence. A line in that movie was: "His name is Lawrence 3 times!" All I could think of was "Her name is Hollie 2 times!" I couldn't wrapped my head around that and all I could do was laugh.

As you may or may not heard the Utah Jordan River Temple will be closed for extensive renovation. The Temple was opened the year I was born 1979. Now you know how old I am along with the JR Temple. The Temple is dubbed "The Peoples Temple". The land was donated, and the church wanted to have the people raise money to build the temple. It is currently the most visited Temple in the world! We are told that on average we do around 1500 ordinances a day in that Temple! It is still not used in full. We always have one endowment room closed, we just rotate the rooms, and if we had enough workers then all of the Initiatory booths would be open. Sadly we don't have enough workers, so the waiting time can be 1-2 hours on average. On February 15 all Temple workers will be released, yep, including me. Our Temple president and Matron wont be.  
Now here is the Rumors that is now surrounding the Jordan River Temple. These are good, remember they are just rumors, nobody really knows what is going to happen.
  1. They are going to build a second baptismal fount. That would be cool, the JR will be the only temple with 2 baptismal founts.  Makes sense, we do get a lot of Youth coming to do baptisms for the dead.
  2. They are going to get rid of the escalator's. We don't know, they are expensive to run.
  3. They are going to redo the kitchen, and cafeteria. It really does need it, plumbing problems and it is small. 
  4. They are going to rebuild it from the bottom up. If they do, then I hope they keep the outside design. It's unique, and gorgeous in it's own way. 
  5. They are going to make the Celestial Room bigger. Again we don't know.
  6. Living Endowment will be changed, because of the bathroom/toilet chorus. Well the NN area also have the bathroom/toilet chorus. Yes, it's an interesting chorus to hear.
  7. They are going to redraw the Temple districts. We don't know, but I can tell you that the Oquirrh Mountain Temple is freaked out by the traffic that is coming their way. I can't say about the Salt Lake Temple and the Draper Temple. I have also heard that the Provo Temple will be closed at the same time as the JR Temple. 
Remember the 1-7 is rumor mill. We don't know what is going on, other then what was announced a week and a half ago. The JR Temple needs it, and I think that it will be fun to see what they would do with it.  

Friday, March 13, 2015

Pineapple Coconut Chicken

Pineapple Coconut Chicken! Wow, this one is good! Not only I get to play with my one of my favorite spices....Ginger, but one of my favorite foods....Pineapple.  You can also dub this as a all natural cough syrup. I'll tell you how later on.  Really it works! I used this while I had a terrible cough...it's Awesome!


4 Boneless Chicken breast
1 Pineapple
1 lemon
3inch of Ginger root
1 tsp Honey
1 Tbl of coconut oil.
2 Tbl shredded coconut


One whole pineapple pealed, discard the outer layer. Cut ALL of the fruit...yes even the hard core of the pineapple. According to Laura Flores, a San Diego-based nutritionist: the hard core of the pineapple is full of nutrition. Like high dosage of vitamin C,  manganese, and enzymes. It's that stuff that helps the body brake down proteins and turn it into energy. Put all of the cut up pineapple into a food processor. Fresh squeeze the whole lemon in to the food processor with the pineapple. Peal the ginger cut it up and place that in there as well, with the teaspoon of honey. Put the food processor on high.  Now you need a fine wire colander or a cheese cloth. Drain the liquid/cough syrup. So...the liquid is the awesome all natural cough syrup! Place the cough syrup in a mansion jar, or some sealed container, put it in the fridge. Take 2 teaspoons every 4/6 hours. 

Now the pulp, is used for your chicken. Place chicken and pulp in a frying pan with coconut oil and 2 tablespoons of  shredded coconut. Cook until your chicken reaches 160 degrees, or until you are confidant that the chicken is done!  This is supper good! 


Sunday, January 11, 2015

Romanticizing: What Could Be

Wouldn't it be wonderful to wake up and everything will be Beautiful? No more killings, hate, or fear? How about walking at night alone on the streets of your favorite city? Possibly a city you've always wanted to visit, but haven't yet?

With all that is ugly things happening around the world, sometimes it is hard to find the simple beautiful joy. We hear or see of killings, threats, the terror people will cause on others. Why? Why must people do and say such things? Could it be jealousy, fear, or just plain zealousness? 

We learn in the scriptures "Wherefore by their fruits ye shall know them." (Matthew 7:20 & 3 Nephi 14:20). As in, look in what they are saying, and doing. A good tree cannot bare rotten fruit. How about: a genuinely good person will always do good, because they want to. 

There is beauty still. Beauty is everywhere. It is in art, music, flowers, and etc. It is 1 am my time. How much fun would it be to walk alone in the dark in your city of choice and not have fear? You could enjoy the city at your own pace. Take everything in, all the sites, smells, the sounds. That would be a fantasy right now. 

Everyone from time to time do a little Romanticizing. Be it for the past, present, or future. We all somehow, in some way do just that, romanticize. Does that make one a romantic or a hopeless romantic?

One of my goal is to find the beauty in this world. It may seem heard or overwhelming, but it can be done. Beauty is in the simplest act of kindness to the simplest and smallest of pleasures. Joy and beauty can be found. We just need to realize it, if we don't now.  

Wednesday, April 23, 2014


Ok, fashion....right. Truth is, I'm not a fashion expert. I don't do fashion policing. However this time I will. I am a tee-shirt and jeans and yoga pants (while I am working out) type girl. So in other words I have no idea what to tell you about fashion. I'm not even going to try and tell you what is the "must-haves-of-the-season" I will say this I am going to include an URL to this post to an other blog, and a web site. 

Sophia Janner, talks about on her blog what every woman needs to know.....bras. Yes, bras. You might think you are waring the right size bra, but the truth of the matter is about 80% of women are not. It's not you're fault, so don't get defensive. The stores like WallMart, K-Mart, and etc don't carry all sizes that women need to find a good comfy fit bra. One of the tall tell signs of wearing the wrong size bra is:

  • Saggy looking boobs
  • You look bigger. Not in the boobs, but your overall shape
  • You have the "forth" boob effect
  • Bad posture
  • Your back and shoulders hurt

80% of women are walking around with their back and shoulders hurting, saggy breast, the "forth boob", and the sideboob." Come on what 20 something wants to have saggy looking breast? What woman for that matter would want to have sagging look breast?

My friends, sorry about the following language, but this is spot on. I know people who are like these
cartoon girls. 

So the question you'd might ask is:
  • How do I know when I do have the right size bra?
My counter questions are:
  1. Is the center gore (which joins the center pice of the bra together) flat against you're chest? If not, then the band size is too small for your rib cage. The center gore should lay flat against your chest. 
  2. Can you pull the center gore away from you're chest? Again, the band size is too small for your rib cage. 
  3. Do you have the sideboob going on? If yes, then your cup size is too small.
  4. Is your band parallel/ straight across the back? If it is not and it rides high on your back, then your band is too big. If the band rides low on your back then the band is too small. 
  5. Do you have breast tissue "bubbling" on top of your bra? If you do then your cup size is too small.
  6. Is the wire of the bra on your breast tissue? If yes, then your band size is too big. 
  7. Is the bra straps digging into your shoulder? If yes, then most likely your band is too big. 
  8. Is your wires are leaving a angry red mark on your breast tissue? Depending where the angry make is, but it could just simply mean that your band is too small, with a too small cup size. 
Again, not your fault if you are wearing the wrong bra size. We are trained to think that cup DD and up are way too big and the girls need to go under the knife. Not really. It all depends on the volume of the breast tissue and how narrow your back/rib cage is. 

For example: 34D, 36C, and 38B have the same volume, but a 38 band might be too big for your rib cage. Now let's go bigger cups. 32FF, 34F, and 38E have the same volume. Now you might think that these are horrendously big, but again, it all depends on your shape. When you do have the right size bra on, then your natural body shape will look slimmer, and boobs will look perky, not saggy. 

Here is clip by Figleaves, they explan what you need to know when looking for the perfect fit bra. It is just a 5 minute clip. I also love their website figleaves.com. They do have a bra calculator that helps. They also have "Ask our experts," they are helpful in finding the right size.  Figleaves.com has ALL sizes, brands, and style of bras, and they always do have some kind of sale going on, all the time. I haven't found another web site that is like this one....yet. 

If you do find out that you are bigger then a 24D, don't fret. Go ahead and get the right size bra even IF it is a 30G. You will find that you are way more comfortable in the right size bra, and you will look better also.  

Ok I've tried to put the clip on the blog, but it didn't want to work. So this is the YouTube URL . Sorry about that.

Cheers for now!
Have an Awesome day
You have deserved it!


Thursday, July 4, 2013

The Declaration Of Independence

IN CONGRESS, July 4, 1776.
The unanimous Declaration of the thirteen united States of America,
When in the Course of human events, it becomes necessary for one people to dissolve the political bands which have connected them with another, and to assume among the powers of the earth, the separate and equal station to which the Laws of Nature and of Nature’s God entitle them, a decent respect to the opinions of mankind requires that they should declare the causes which impel them to the separation.
We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.–That to secure these rights, Governments are instituted among Men, deriving their just powers from the consent of the governed, –That whenever any Form of Government becomes destructive of these ends, it is the Right of the People to alter or to abolish it, and to institute new Government, laying its foundation on such principles and organizing its powers in such form, as to them shall seem most likely to effect their Safety and Happiness. Prudence, indeed, will dictate that Governments long established should not be changed for light and transient causes; and accordingly all experience hath shewn, that mankind are more disposed to suffer, while evils are sufferable, than to right themselves by abolishing the forms to which they are accustomed. But when a long train of abuses and usurpations, pursuing invariably the same Object evinces a design to reduce them under absolute Despotism, it is their right, it is their duty, to throw off such Government, and to provide new Guards for their future security.–Such has been the patient sufferance of these Colonies; and such is now the necessity which constrains them to alter their former Systems of Government. The history of the present King of Great Britain is a history of repeated injuries and usurpations, all having in direct object the establishment of an absolute Tyranny over these States. To prove this, let Facts be submitted to a candid world.
He has refused his Assent to Laws, the most wholesome and necessary for the public good.
He has forbidden his Governors to pass Laws of immediate and pressing importance, unless suspended in their operation till his Assent should be obtained; and when so suspended, he has utterly neglected to attend to them.
He has refused to pass other Laws for the accommodation of large districts of people, unless those people would relinquish the right of Representation in the Legislature, a right inestimable to them and formidable to tyrants only.
He has called together legislative bodies at places unusual, uncomfortable, and distant from the depository of their public Records, for the sole purpose of fatiguing them into compliance with his measures.
He has dissolved Representative Houses repeatedly, for opposing with manly firmness his invasions on the rights of the people.
He has refused for a long time, after such dissolutions, to cause others to be elected; whereby the Legislative powers, incapable of Annihilation, have returned to the People at large for their exercise; the State remaining in the mean time exposed to all the dangers of invasion from without, and convulsions within.
He has endeavoured to prevent the population of these States; for that purpose obstructing the Laws for Naturalization of Foreigners; refusing to pass others to encourage their migrations hither, and raising the conditions of new Appropriations of Lands.
He has obstructed the Administration of Justice, by refusing his Assent to Laws for establishing Judiciary powers.
He has made Judges dependent on his Will alone, for the tenure of their offices, and the amount and payment of their salaries.
He has erected a multitude of New Offices, and sent hither swarms of Officers to harrass our people, and eat out their substance.
He has kept among us, in times of peace, Standing Armies without the Consent of our legislatures.
He has affected to render the Military independent of and superior to the Civil power.
He has combined with others to subject us to a jurisdiction foreign to our constitution, and unacknowledged by our laws; giving his Assent to their Acts of pretended Legislation:
For Quartering large bodies of armed troops among us:
For protecting them, by a mock Trial, from punishment for any Murders which they should commit on the Inhabitants of these States:
For cutting off our Trade with all parts of the world:
For imposing Taxes on us without our Consent:
For depriving us in many cases, of the benefits of Trial by Jury:
For transporting us beyond Seas to be tried for pretended offences
For abolishing the free System of English Laws in a neighbouring Province, establishing therein an Arbitrary government, and enlarging its Boundaries so as to render it at once an example and fit instrument for introducing the same absolute rule into these Colonies:
For taking away our Charters, abolishing our most valuable Laws, and altering fundamentally the Forms of our Governments:
For suspending our own Legislatures, and declaring themselves invested with power to legislate for us in all cases whatsoever.
He has abdicated Government here, by declaring us out of his Protection and waging War against us.
He has plundered our seas, ravaged our Coasts, burnt our towns, and destroyed the lives of our people.
He is at this time transporting large Armies of foreign Mercenaries to compleat the works of death, desolation and tyranny, already begun with circumstances of Cruelty & perfidy scarcely paralleled in the most barbarous ages, and totally unworthy the Head of a civilized nation.
He has constrained our fellow Citizens taken Captive on the high Seas to bear Arms against their Country, to become the executioners of their friends and Brethren, or to fall themselves by their Hands.
He has excited domestic insurrections amongst us, and has endeavoured to bring on the inhabitants of our frontiers, the merciless Indian Savages, whose known rule of warfare, is an undistinguished destruction of all ages, sexes and conditions.
In every stage of these Oppressions We have Petitioned for Redress in the most humble terms: Our repeated Petitions have been answered only by repeated injury. A Prince whose character is thus marked by every act which may define a Tyrant, is unfit to be the ruler of a free people.
Nor have We been wanting in attentions to our Brittish brethren. We have warned them from time to time of attempts by their legislature to extend an unwarrantable jurisdiction over us. We have reminded them of the circumstances of our emigration and settlement here. We have appealed to their native justice and magnanimity, and we have conjured them by the ties of our common kindred to disavow these usurpations, which, would inevitably interrupt our connections and correspondence. They too have been deaf to the voice of justice and of consanguinity. We must, therefore, acquiesce in the necessity, which denounces our Separation, and hold them, as we hold the rest of mankind, Enemies in War, in Peace Friends.
We, therefore, the Representatives of the united States of America, in General Congress, Assembled, appealing to the Supreme Judge of the world for the rectitude of our intentions, do, in the Name, and by Authority of the good People of these Colonies, solemnly publish and declare, That these United Colonies are, and of Right ought to be Free and Independent States; that they are Absolved from all Allegiance to the British Crown, and that all political connection between them and the State of Great Britain, is and ought to be totally dissolved; and that as Free and Independent States, they have full Power to levy War, conclude Peace, contract Alliances, establish Commerce, and to do all other Acts and Things which Independent States may of right do. And for the support of this Declaration, with a firm reliance on the protection of divine Providence, we mutually pledge to each other our Lives, our Fortunes and our sacred Honor.

The 56 signatures on the Declaration appear in the positions indicated:
Column 1
Button Gwinnett
Lyman Hall
George Walton
Column 2
North Carolina:
William Hooper
Joseph Hewes
John Penn
South Carolina:
Edward Rutledge
Thomas Heyward, Jr.
Thomas Lynch, Jr.
Arthur Middleton
Column 3
John Hancock
Samuel Chase
William Paca
Thomas Stone
Charles Carroll of Carrollton
George Wythe
Richard Henry Lee
Thomas Jefferson
Benjamin Harrison
Thomas Nelson, Jr.
Francis Lightfoot Lee
Carter Braxton
Column 4
Robert Morris
Benjamin Rush
Benjamin Franklin
John Morton
George Clymer
James Smith
George Taylor
James Wilson
George Ross
Caesar Rodney
George Read
Thomas McKean
Column 5
New York:
William Floyd
Philip Livingston
Francis Lewis
Lewis Morris
New Jersey:
Richard Stockton
John Witherspoon
Francis Hopkinson
John Hart
Abraham Clark
Column 6
New Hampshire:
Josiah Bartlett
William Whipple
Samuel Adams
John Adams
Robert Treat Paine
Elbridge Gerry
Rhode Island:
Stephen Hopkins
William Ellery
Roger Sherman
Samuel Huntington
William Williams
Oliver Wolcott
New Hampshire:
Matthew Thornton

Happy Birthday America!
Cheers Everyone!!